Saturday, 26 November 2016

SEX CAPSULE:- My Husband visit my OTHER ROOM once in a Month". Host :- Omofoye Mayowa


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Welcome to today's episode of sex capsule. I'm your regular host,Omofoye Mayowa. Our topic for discussion today is Marriage and fixing a sex time table. Do you think its right? Why do couples go for this option?






Keeping the passion and spark alive in a marriage long term is quite a challenge, no matter how intimate you and your partner were in the beginning of your relationship.Sex in marriage is  in many ways the lifeline between you and your partner’s emotional attachment. So, make it increasingly important to include times for marriage intimacy in your weekly routine.

    Whether weekly or fortnightly, preparing a schedule or a time table has kept so many homes alive. However,it does not work in some homes. What works for home A may not work for home B.The most important thing is for one to find out what will work out in ones home.

    Many are of the opinion that sex works with feelings,emotions,happiness, attractiveness, how one is able to control ones body and other things. If a partner is stressed out,especially a lady,the man can do other things to distract the two of them. He can take the lady for an holiday, to the beach; he can cook dinner or do any romantic thing.


     Some people believe drawing a time table for sex is a boring way of living a family life. Sex should be spontaneous, fun and mutual; however, it should not be abused.
    Couples decide to option in for scheduled sexual interaction for many reaons which include time,job,etc. Some writers' opinion about having a time table to have sex as a couple is below;



    Lisa Brinkworth and husband Joseph set the alarm for 5am on Saturdays to make time for sex .  At 5am every Saturday, the alarm goes off and my husband Joseph gently nudges me awake. I try to ignore the alarm and my husband, but eventually I force myself  to respond.I may be exhausted, but it’s time for our weekly bedroom activity.I would far rather grab another hour’s sleep before our three young boys come bounding in, but I know this is the only opportunity we’ll have to rekindle the romance that eludes us in the hurried chaos of everyday life.We are one of a growing number of couples having scheduled sex because if we didn’t pre-arrange our intimate time together, there simply wouldn’t be any.My husband works long hours as an accountant and I write during the school day.

When the boys arrive home, we start the round of after-school activities, homework, supper, bath and bedtime.I barely notice Joseph arrive home as I hurl uniforms in the washing machine, load the dishwasher and start cooking dinner. In place of the glass of wine and conversation we shared pre-children, I check homework and replace sports’ kit before meeting work deadlines while Joseph dozes in an armchair.It’s well after midnight by the time we get to bed, exhausted. And six hours later it’s time to start the whole thing over again.Getting just 60 minutes alone together requires military precision, but, after a prolonged dry spell of no sex at all for six months, we realised that we simply had to make time to make love.



We decided to pick the same time each week as then we’d know there was always something to look forward to.It may seem like the middle of the night, but early Saturday morning seemed to be the optimum moment for intimacy for us as there was no danger of being intruded upon by small boys and I’m not preoccupied with urgent pre-school chores.No matter how tired we are when the alarm goes off, we agree that precious hour brings us close again at the end of a week where we barely see each other.And, let’s face it, there are certainly worse ways tostart the weekend.


Paul Connolly, 50, is a journalist. He has eight-month-old twin daughters with his girlfriend, Donna. They also have four cats. He says:I have no idea how couples have sex without scheduling. Even before our twin girls arrived lastsummer, our lives were too busy to not schedule time together. Setting time aside for hanky-panky has been the only way to have any kind of sex life.At first, stupidly, we tried to set aside a couple of weekday evenings. But that was a frustrating waste of time.By the appointed hour, 9.30pm at the earliest, once home from work and fed, we were far too frazzled to do anything other than sit in front of the TV. After just two weeks, we figured that particular time slot wasn’t working.+6Paul Connolly, 50, is a journalist. He has eight-month-old twin daughters with his girlfriend, Donna.



The couple set aside time at the weekends to keep the flame aliveWe soon learned that for working couples, weekends are the only sensible option. We blocked off a one-hour window on Saturday and Sunday and stuck to it. TV off, phones on silent. That was our time.Sure, such an arrangement lacked spontaneity, but if you’ll only settle for spontaneity and fireworks, then it isn’t ever going to happen.Now with two eight-month-old smashers in the house, it’s even more of a challenge. Every day is like our old weekdays. If one of the twins is napping, the other one is sure to be awake. Some days we don’t even have time to shower. So thesedays, our sex scheduling has gone up a notch.The only way to have ‘us-time’ is to schedule a whole night together.


 And that means getting the grandparents involved once every couple of weeks.The children spend a night with them and we have a night with each other, usually in a hotel to offer a welcome change of scenery.We do have less time together than before, but it’s of a better quality. And just as much fun.




   Whether you are making a time table for sex with your partner or not, the most important thing is for couples to find out what works out best for them
Till next week when we discuss another interesting marital topic


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Thursday, 24 November 2016

ONE MIC:- Untold Secret of Fela Kuti towards PMB/OBJ:- Host:- Alonge lawrence

 Welcome to another Edition of ONE MIC an entertainment platform Today we shall be celebrating one of the African Lengend FELA ANIKULAPO KUTI


 Fela Kuti was (born Olufela Olusegun Oludotun Ransome-Kuti) on 15 October 1938 – 2 August 1997). Also known as Fela Anikulapo Kuti or simply Fela, he was a Nigerian multi-instrumentalist, musician, composer, pioneer of the Afrobeat music genre, human rights activist, and political maverickRansome-Kuti







on 15 October 1938 in Abeokuta, Ogun State, Nigeria into an upper-middle-class family. His mother, Funmilayo Ransome-Kuti, was a feminist activist in the anti-colonial movement; his father, Reverend Israel Oludotun Ransome-Kuti, a Protestant minister and school principal, was the first president of the Nigeria Union of Teachers. His brothers, Beko Ransome-Kuti and Olikoye Ransome-Kuti, both medical doctors, are well known in Nigeria. Fela was a first cousin to the Nigerian writer and Nobel laureate Wole Soyinka, the first African to win the Nobel Prize for Literature.


In 1960, Fela married his first wife, Remilekun (Remi) Taylor, with whom he would have three children (Femi, Yeni, and Sola). In 1963, Fela moved back to Nigeria, re-formed Koola Lobitos and trained as a radio producer for the Nigerian Broadcasting Corporation. He played for some time with Victor Olaiya and his All Stars.


In 1967, he went to Ghana to think up a new musical direction. That was when Kuti first called his music Afrobeat. In 1969, Fela took the band to the United States where they spent 10 months in Los Angeles. While there, Fela discovered the Black Power movement through Sandra Smith (now Sandra Izsadore), a partisan of the Black Panther Party. The experience would heavily influence his music and political views. He renamed the band Nigeria ’70. Soon afterwards, the Immigration and Naturalization Service was tipped off by a promoter that Fela and his band were in the US without work permits.



The band immediately performed a quick recording session in Los Angeles that would later be released as The ’69 Los Angeles Sessions.

After Fela and his band returned to Nigeria, the group was renamed The Afrika ’70, as lyrical themes changed from love to social issues. He then formed the Kalakuta Republic, a commune, a recording studio, and a home for the many people connected to the band that he later declared independent from the Nigerian state. (According to Lindsay Barrett, the name “Kalakuta” derived from the infamous Black Hole of Calcutta dungeon in India.)



Fela set up a nightclub in the Empire Hotel, first named the Afro-Spot and then the Afrika Shrine, where he both performed regularly and officiated at personalized Yoruba traditional ceremonies in honour of his nation’s ancestral faith. He also changed his middle name to Anikulapo (meaning “He who carries death in his pouch”, with the interpretation: “I will be the master of my own destiny and will decide when it is time for death to take me”), stating that his original middle name of Ransome was a slave name.

Fela’s music was popular among the Nigerian public and Africans in general. In fact, he made the decision to sing in Pidgin English so that his music could be enjoyed by individuals all over Africa, where the local languages spoken are very diverse and numerous. As popular as Fela’s music had become in Nigeria and elsewhere, it was also very unpopular with the ruling government, and raids on the Kalakuta Republic were frequent. During 1972, Ginger Baker recorded Stratavarious with Fela appearing alongside Bobby Tench. Around this time, Kuti became even more involved in the Yoruba religion.

In 1977, Fela and the Afrika ’70 released the album Zombie, a scathing attack on Nigerian soldiers using the zombie metaphor to describe the methods of the Nigerian military. The album was a smash hit and infuriated the government, setting off a vicious attack against the Kalakuta Republic, during which one thousand soldiers attacked the commune. Fela was severely beaten, and his elderly mother (whose house was located opposite the commune) was thrown from a window, causing fatal injuries. The Kalakuta Republic was burned, and Fela’s studio, instruments, and master tapes were destroyed. Fela claimed that he would have been killed had it not been for the intervention of a commanding officer as he was being beaten. Fela’s response to the attack was to deliver his mother’s coffin to the Dodan Barracks in Lagos, General Olusegun Obasanjo’s residence, and to write two songs, “Coffin for Head of State” and “Unknown Soldier”, referencing the official inquiry that claimed the commune had been destroyed by an unknown soldier.


Fela and his band then took residence in Crossroads Hotel, as the Shrine had been destroyed along with his commune. In 1978, Fela married 27 women, many of whom were his dancers, composers, and singers to mark the anniversary of the attack on the Kalakuta Republic. Later, he was to adopt a rotation system of keeping only 12 simultaneous wives. The year was also marked by two notorious concerts, the first in Accra in which riots broke out during the song “Zombie”, which led to Fela being banned from entering Ghana. The second was at the Berlin Jazz Festival after which most of Fela’s musicians deserted him, due to rumours that Fela was planning to use the entire proceeds to fund his presidential campaign.


Despite the massive setbacks, Fela was determined to come back. He formed his own political party, which he called Movement of the People (MOP), in order to “clean up society like a mop”. In 1979, he put himself forward for President in Nigeria’s first elections for more than a decade, but his candidature was refused. At this time, Fela created a new band called Egypt ’80 (reflecting his reading of pan-African literature) and continued to record albums and tour the country. He further infuriated the political establishment by dropping the names of ITT Corporation vice-president Moshood Abiola and then General Olusegun Obasanjo at the end of a hot-selling 25-minute political screed entitled “I.T.T. (International Thief-Thief)”.

1980s and beyond
Obasanjo, Fela and Buhari
Obasanjo, Fela and Buhari

In 1984, Muhammadu Buhari’s government, of which Kuti was a vocal opponent, jailed him on a charge of currency smuggling which Amnesty International and others denounced as politically motivated.

Amnesty designated him a prisoner of conscience, and his case was also taken up by other human rights groups. After 20 months, he was released from prison by General Ibrahim Babangida. On his release he divorced his 12 remaining wives, saying that “marriage brings jealousy and selfishness”.

Once again, Fela continued to release albums with Egypt ’80, made a number of successful tours of the United States and Europe and also continued to be politically active. In 1986, Fela performed in Giants Stadium in New Jersey as part of the Amnesty International A Conspiracy of Hope concert, sharing the bill with Bono, Carlos Santana, and The Neville Brothers. In 1989, Fela and Egypt ’80 released the anti-apartheid Beasts of No Nation that depicts on its cover U.S. President Ronald Reagan, UK Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher and South African State President Pieter Willem Botha, that title of the composition, as Barrett notes, having evolved out of a statement by Botha: “This uprising [against the apartheid system] will bring out the beast in us.”




Fela’s album output slowed in the 1990s, and eventually he stopped releasing albums altogether. In 1993, he and four members of the Afrika ’70 organization were arrested for murder. The battle against military corruption in Nigeria was taking its toll, especially during the rise of dictator Sani Abacha. Rumours were also spreading that he was suffering from an illness for which he was refusing treatment.

Death
On 3 August 1997, Olikoye Ransome-Kuti, already a prominent AIDS activist and former Minister of Health, stunned the nation by announcing his younger brother’s death a day earlier from Kaposi’s sarcoma which was brought on by AIDS. More than a million people attended Fela’s funeral at the site of the old Shrine compound. A new Africa Shrine has opened since Fela’s death in a different section of Lagos under the supervision of his son Femi Kuti.
Music




The musical style of Felá is called afrobeat, a style he largely created, which is a complex fusion of Jazz, Funk, Ghanaian/Nigerian High-life, psychedelic rock, and traditional West African chants and rhythms. Afrobeat also borrows heavily from the native “tinker pan” African-style percussion that Kuti acquired while studying in Ghana with Hugh Masekela, under the uncanny Hedzoleh Soundz. The importance of the input of Tony Allen (Fela’s drummer of twenty years) in the creation of Afrobeat cannot be overstated. Fela once famously stated that “without Tony Allen, there would be no Afrobeat”.

Afrobeat is characterized by a fairly large band with many instruments, vocals, and a musical structure featuring jazzy, funky horn sections. A riff-based “endless groove” is used, in which a base rhythm of drums, shekere, muted West African-style guitar, and melodic bass guitar riffs are repeated throughout the song. Commonly, interlocking melodic riffs and rhythms are introduced one by one, building the groove bit-by-bit and layer-by-layer. The horn section then becomes prominent, introducing other riffs and main


melodic themes.

Fela’s band was notable for featuring two baritone saxophones, whereas most groups were using only one of this instrument. This is a common technique in African and African-influenced musical styles, and can be seen in Funk and Hip hop. Fela’s bands at times even performed with two bassists at the same time both playing interlocking melodies and rhythms. There were always two or more guitarists. The electric West African style guitar in Afrobeat bands are paramount, but are used to give basic structure, playing a repeating chordal/melodic statement, riff, or groove.

Some elements often present in Fela’s music are the call-and-response within the chorus and figurative but simple lyrics. Fela’s songs were also very long, at least 10–15 minutes in length, and many reaching the 20 or even 30 minutes, while some unreleased tracks would last up to 45 minutes when performed live. This was one of many reasons that his music never reached a substantial degree of popularity outside Africa. His LP records frequently had one 30-minute track per side. Typically there is an instrumental “introduction” jam part of the song, perhaps 10–15 minutes long, before Fela starts singing the “main” part of the song, featuring his lyrics and singing, in which the song continues for another 10–15 minutes. Therefore, on some recordings one may see his songs divided into two parts, Part 1 (instrumental) followed by the rest, Part 2.


His songs were mostly sung in Nigerian pidgin English, although he also performed a few songs in the Yoruba language. Fela’s main instruments were the saxophone and the keyboards, but he also played the trumpet, electric guitar, and took the occasional drum solo. Fela refused to perform songs again after he had already recorded them, which also hindered his popularity outside Africa.
*Fela
*Paparazzis ambushing Fela with their camera flash lights



Fela was known for his showmanship, and his concerts were often quite outlandish and wild. He referred to his stage act as the “Underground” Spiritual Game. Fela attempted making a movie but lost all the materials to the fire that was set to his house by the military government in power. Kuti thought that art, and thus his own music, should have political meaning.

It is of note that as Fela’s musical career developed, so too did his political influence, not only in his home country of Nigeria, not just throughout Africa, but throughout the world. As his political influence grew, the religious aspect of his musical approach grew. Fela was a part of an Afro-Centric consciousness movement that was founded on and delivered through his music. Fela, in an interview found in Hank Bordowitz’s “Noise of the World”, states, “Music is supposed to have an effect. If you’re playing music and people don’t feel something, you’re not doing shit.

That’s what African music is about. When you hear something, you must move. I want to move people to dance, but also to think. Music wants to dictate a better life, against a bad life. When you’re listening to something that depicts having a better life, and you’re not having a better life, it must have an effect on you.”
Wao hope you enjoy today Episode of ONE MIC join me Next week for another edition..

.. I remain your Host Alonge Lawrence

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Monday, 21 November 2016

FASHION & BEAUTY:- " I was a Mischievous Child" :- Host:- Olamide Ige

Good day to you today. Welcome to another edition of the fashion and beauty segment of Smile documentary. This week on smile documentary, we have an interesting topic to share with you  ; TRIBAL MARKS. Haven't you wondered why some people have tribal marks?
Tribal marks are part of the Yoruba culture and are usually inscribed on the body by burning or cutting of the skin during childhood. The primary function of the tribal marks is for identification of a person's tribe and it could be a family thing.



Other secondary functions of the marks are symbols of beauty.. It is also used to mark mischievous children (the Abiku).



 The location and position of the mark's inscription depends on the tribe and culture.The tribal marks could be inscribed on the breast, arm, lap or buttocks, but they are mostly on the face.

There are different types of tribal marks,  we have the PELE, GOMBO, OWU, ABAJA.


Tribal marks are used as a means of identification and beautification among the Yoruba tribe,and these are no longer a norm, some Yoruba states have enacted certain laws that prohibits the use of the marks.


Violators of the law are liable to fines or imprisonment (or both). In Oyo state, for example, the prohibition of tribal marks is an integral part of the state child Rights Law, a law that imposes a fine or one-month  imprisonment or both for violation. According to the law "No person shall tattoo or make a skin mark or cause any tattoo or skin mark to be made on a child"....And up until next week till we come again with something more interesting for you stay tuned to smile documentary.
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Friday, 18 November 2016

SEX CAPSULE:- My parent are Evil: Host :- Mayowa Omofoye





Good day. Welcome to today's edition of sex capsule. I'm Mayowa, Mrs Ogunlowo shared with Smile Documentary on How The Parental Break-up Affected Her Educational Career.Today we'll be discussing the effects of family breakups on children.



Family break-up is a common experience in childhood today, yet reports of its effects on children vary considerably. Variables to be considered are the age, sex and previous experiences of the child as well as the observer's viewpoint (clinician compared with social scientist): divorce is a process affecting all family members: parent disharmony and quarrels prior to the




divorce appear to be more detrimental to a child's adjustment than the separation itself which may represent a relief of tension. Behaviour and emotional problems following divorce relate to litigation regarding custody and access (accusations of sexual abuse during access are not uncommon), and a diminution of living standards. Feelings of rejection, depression, anger and guilt are frequentin the immediate post-divorce period, but settle during the ensuing year. Family counselling, individual work withchildren (especially explanations for younger ones) and social support in thepost-divorce period are suggested as a means of combating long-term, sometimes lifelong, sequelae.




When parents break up, there are a number of short and long term effects on children. Knowing these effects can help you protect against them and give your children the best chance in life.Around one in three children in the UK are likely to experience parental separation before the age of 16. Half of couples divorcing in 2010 had at least one child aged under 16 and over a fifth hada child under five. When we include children whose parents were cohabiting but not married, the number is likely to be much higher.Most commonly, children of separated couples will experience greater poverty.






Studies have also shown that children whose biological parents split up are likely to struggle more with social, emotional and cognitive development. This is true whether the parents were married or not.Children’s health can also suffer – physically and psychologically. Children of separated parents are more likely to act out and take part in risky behaviours like substance misuse.Children of separated couples also tend to perform worse at school and have poorer future employment prospects.



 Research also shows that children of separated couples are less likely to have successful relationships themselves when they grow up.Do all children of separated couples have problems?No. Not all children will suffer long-term harm from the breakup of a relationship. In fact, if the relationship between separated parents remains friendly, most children can adjust to the new family situation, even after an initial period of unhappiness and instability.



The main factors in protecting children from these risks are:
*.good quality parenting.
*a lack of financial hardship.
*the stability of the parents’ relationships after the separation.
*There may not be much you can do about financial hardship, but you can certainly support your child by making an effort to get on well with your ex-partner. If there is still conflict, try to keepit away from your child and work towards resolving your differences and creating a stable home life.



Who is affected the most by separation: boys or girls?
There is some evidence showing that boys find separation more upsetting to begin with, but that the effects on girls are more likely to last longer. Boys tend to find it easier than girls to adjust to stepfamilies, particularly in early adolescence.Generally speaking, older boys and girls find it harder than younger children to adjust to a new family. However, younger children might not be as aware of their parents’ relationship problems, so the separation can sometimes come as more of a shock.





This may lead to younger children feeling more confused and anxious, and can evenresult in them blaming themselves for the separation.The impact of new partners and families. There is also a link between behaviour problems and the number of relationships the parents haveafter the separation. When you get together with someone else, there is a transitional period for the child. They are already adjusting to a new way of life and meeting a new stepparent means another transition for them to deal with.







Research shows that multiple transitions can be bad for a child’s behaviour, leading to problems like disobedience and hyperactivity. Many children find a parent’s remarriage more stressfulthan the separation itself. If you’ve met a new partner, be aware that the introduction is going tobe a big deal for your children, and consider the long term future of the relationship before taking any big steps.Children may find it easier to deal with a parent’s new partner if the other biological parent is not starting a new relationship at the same time. If you and your ex are both moving on, consider making the introductions at different times.



Having a stable family situation in at least one home could really help your child.Protecting children from the effects of separationThe good news is that you can take steps to limit the effects of separation on your children, and they needn’t suffer any long-term harm. There’s no simple formula to follow, but the key factors linked to positive outcomes for children are:
*.Good quality, warm parenting from both parents.
*Continuing good relations and co-operation between parents.
*Social support for the child from extended family and friends.



So, keep on nurturing your child, try to maintain good relations with your ex-partner and make sure you’re involving good friends and other family. It may still be an unsettling time, but your child can emerge safely at the other side if they feel well supported and safe from conflict.


Till next week when we'll come your way with another interesting package of sex capsule, I remain your host Omofoye mayowa